Read most Family Court custody orders and you’ll see a couple of lines that discourages the parents from getting the children involved in the divorce and custody disputes. Some orders go as far as stating the parents shall not speak with the children about such things. The genesis of these orders is obvious – the Family Court doesn’t want to get the children embroiled in the parents’ divorce or custody disputes. But how practical is that? Are parents really expected to shield their children from that which is right in front of their eyes? Are parents expected to lie to the kids? The answer isn’t easy but through long experience and seeing what works and what doesn’t, I have come to the following conclusion – use a “need to know” basis as your rule of thumb. [Read more…] about How do you Talk to Children About Custody?