Read most Family Court custody orders and you’ll see a couple of lines that discourages the parents from getting the children involved in the divorce and custody disputes. Some orders go as far as stating the parents shall not speak with the children about such things. The genesis of these orders is obvious – the Family Court doesn’t want to get the children embroiled in the parents’ divorce or custody disputes. But how practical is that? Are parents really expected to shield their children from that which is right in front of their eyes? Are parents expected to lie to the kids? The answer isn’t easy but through long experience and seeing what works and what doesn’t, I have come to the following conclusion – use a “need to know” basis as your rule of thumb. [Read more…] about How do you Talk to Children About Custody?
Divorce and Children
The word “timeshare” isn’t just a piece of vacation real estate in the Bahamas. When it comes to children and custody, it’s the hours during the week, month and year they spend with each parent. Two parents who share a schedule that allows them to see their children 50 percent of the time have an equal timeshare. The percentages vary from one divorce case to another. But timeshare isn’t just time. Timeshare is money – sometimes lots of it, to the tune of thousands of dollars per month – and the parent with the greater time often receives the greater money. Unfortunately, it is this simple fact that accounts for many family court custody battles when one parent seeks a change in custody not for the children’s best interest but solely to modify child support. [Read more…] about Divorce and Children. The Unhealthy Connection Between Money and Timeshare